Day 15: Recreate Your Inner Circle

If you want to follow along in my 30 day challenge be sure to check out the 30 Days to Peace: How to Minimize Strife & Enjoy Your Life.

Everyone always talks about having an “inner circle” as in, those people that you can really confide in and trust. When I began my divorce, I was told to reevaluate who was in my “inner circle” and start removing those who just plain did not need to be there.

Truth be told, only a few people truly care about you personally, the rest are simply curious and will share your pain with whomever comes their way. It is important to realize that especially if you’re going through something rather traumatic.

This reevaluation will likely lead you to find that you have many acquaintances and very few “real” friends. Don’t worry, that’s normal.

For me personally, I had no intention of becoming the latest gossip or train wreck for that matter as I went through my divorce. It was and still is a very private matter in my opinion. Therefore, my inner circle had to know how to encourage me and keep my business private at the same time.

Inside my inner circle is my mom, sister and two friends. That’s it. Done.

It’s not that I don’t trust people, actually, I probably trust too much. It has more to do with realizing that when I truly need someone to walk through the fire with me, these are the people that will do it.

If you would like to seek peace in your life, it is important to evaluate who you let into your life. If your best friend is the biggest gossip in the PTA then it’s time to find someone else. If your closest friend is a walking Jerry Springer Show, then it’s time to move on. If your friends are simply leading you down a path of destruction and strife rather than peace, let them go.

We have to carefully choose who we hang around. Why? Because we will become just like them. Remember, it is much easier for someone to pull you down rather than you being able to pull them up.

Make a conscious decision about who you talk to about your personal life, talk to the uplifter, the encourager, the go-getter and leave the gossip and the drama queen behind.

“Walk with the wise and become wise, for a companion of fools suffers harm.” Proverbs 13:20

If you want to follow along in my 30 day challenge be sure to check out the 30 Days to Peace: How to Minimize Strife & Enjoy Your Life.

Sarah Ann

Sarah Ann is an author, speaker and media personality committed to honesty, vulnerability and authenticity. She has a passion for empowering people who are willing to be honest and walk out life in Christ together. Sarah holds a Bachelors in Biblical Studies and a Masters in Theology and Apologetics, she also owns a clothing company, Ascent516.com and is the creator of SarahAnnSpeaks.com and the Sarah Ann Speaks Podcast. Sarah is featured daily on GEB TV.