Yesterday, I kicked off my new series 30 Days to Peace: How to Minimize Strife and Enjoy Your Life. This series is more of a challenge, a challenge to create a new habit of peace. That means, instead of reacting with strife, anger or anxiety, we react to life with peace.
Day 2: Choose Peace
Several years ago I took a marriage class, the pastor teaching the class brought up a concept I had not heard before, he said that we are to choose to love our spouses every single day. That means, on those days when there are no butterflies or foo foo feelings, we still are to choose to love our spouses. In the end saying, love is not a feeling, it is a choice.
I agree with that.
Complete honesty coming, be warned…I’m divorced. So, obviously, I’m not going to be sitting here giving you marriage advice. However, I will go so far to say that what the pastor said that day has never left my head, I do believe you have to make a choice. Besides, if you live your life based on feelings, you’ll be an emotional roller coaster. And, let’s be honest, some days you don’t feel like loving anyone especially your spouse.
In saying that, if we are to make a choice daily concerning the love of our spouses, would it not also make sense that we need to make a choice daily about other things like happiness and peace?
That leads us to the challenge for today, the challenge is to choose peace. Before your feet hit the floor, choose to live a peaceful day.
“If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone.” Romans 12:18
Did you read that verse? It says, “as far as it depends on you.” You are the only person you can control, you cannot control the actions or thoughts of others. That means, you can wake up and decide you will live in peace despite what others say and do to you throughout the day.
I read stuff and see things about myself (negative things) online all the time, people have even sent me random things which makes it all very hard to just ignore but I have become much better at letting it roll off. What needs to be dealt with professionally, I deal with. However, I have come to realize I have two choices when it comes to someone else’s behavior:
1. Let it ruin my day, get me depressed or stressed.
2. Choose peace and say, “I’m not going to be brought down by someone else’s problems and comments, I choose to live in peace today.”
BAM. That’s how you do it. Don’t let other people destroy what God has planned for you. I’m not perfect, I do get upset from time to time but I also know better things are yet to come and as far as it depends on me, I will live at peace.
Sarah Ann is an author, speaker and media personality committed to honesty, vulnerability and authenticity. She has a passion for empowering people who are willing to be honest and walk out life in Christ together. Sarah holds a Bachelors in Biblical Studies and a Masters in Theology and Apologetics, she also owns a clothing company, Ascent516.com and is the creator of SarahAnnSpeaks.com and the Sarah Ann Speaks Podcast. Sarah is featured daily on GEB TV.